How to Stop Watching Porn

You decided to stop watching porn but within a few days, you found yourself masturbating before your laptop. Every time you watch porn and feel bad, you declare- “This is the last time”, but before you know, you are there again with your eyes searching for a sexy video and your hands going down. It doesn’t have to be that way. There is a way out, There is Freedom…Buckle up…

Porn, the Evil Assassin:-
Pornography doesn’t need any intro, it has got more fans than football. Porn is the only stuff out there that has hooked every age group into it’s net. Children, Teenagers, Youths, Middle-agers, what more, even Grandpas and Grandmas are chained by this demon called porn. Days when Porn addiction was a man thing is over, girls/women are equally addicted to porn. In this Internet age, Porn is the most accessed stuff in the World Wide Web. Millions have been blinded by the instant pleasure it gives that they don’t detect the damage it is releasing in their lives.

Porn is not harmless, it is dangerous. It is an evil assassin sent from the pit of hell to give you taste of hell. I’m not denying that it gives you some kind of pleasure but the after-effects are immense. Watching porn affects you physically, emotionally, spiritually and weakens your will power. Watching porn is not just between you and your laptop and your high-speed internet connection, it affects every area of your life. It will affect your marriage, your kids and every one you come in touch with because it creates a false identity. Porn has produced psycho-killers, adulterers, depressed individuals, individuals with a false sexuality (homosexuals), pedophiles (the ones who want to have sex with little kids), incest relationships (sex inside the family. For ex, Mother-Son) and the list goes on. You can be just watching porn now but it will lead you into other sexual sins- you can end up being unfaithful to your spouse by sleeping with someone else in your job, you can end up with a prostitute, you can end up in homosexuality and more. You can say-“Never never, I won’t do all that”, Shhhhh…You are on the way, you won’t know until you get there. Watching porn changes you and before you knew you will be in a deeper sexual sin. Watching porn videos and Playing with a loaded shotgun have a connection, both are suicidal.

Porn Addiction and Your Brain:-
Addictions are formed in your mind when you indulge in an unhealthy activity repeatedly. It’s in your MIND. When you keep repeating a task, your brain forms something called a neuropath, which makes that task a habit in your life. Smoking, drinking, watching porn or whatever become habits when a neuropath is formed in the brain by repetitive activity.

Your Brain is a sexual organ, sex is not just about your pinky below. When you watch porn, your brain releases chemicals like dopomine and endorphins. The release of these chemicals generates pleasure. There is nothing wrong with these chemicals or their release, it is all part of God’s design. How you use them makes the difference. These chemicals are released when we indulge in different activities, including natural sex. What Porn does is that it corrupts the normal process and makes you experience pleasure by the release of those chemicals. And this experience gets printed in your memory that you start seeking that pleasure again. Seeking pleasure is not wrong but seeking it in the wrong place is wrong. The Wrong place here is Porn. As your memory brings that experience to light, it will also tell you how you experienced that pleasure last time and will lead you back to porn. And that’s how the cycle starts. Before you know, you are addicted to pornography, you are addicted to sex. Okay bare with me to a little more preachy stuff, then we’ll get practical. Never forget, Truth brings Freedom and Lies keep you in chains. I’m throwing Truths at your Pet lies that are causing addiction.

Freedom from Porn addiction:-
There is a Way Out, There is Hope, no matter how much deeper you have traveled in the world of porn. You can watch porn in the comfort of your room, without anyone watching. Problem starts not when you get caught watching nude folks, Problem starts the moment you start watching. WATCHING PORN REWIRES YOUR BRAIN. The more you watch, the more messed up your mind will become. Watching Porn is like playing with loaded shotgun, you are going to blow your head off for sure. It is suicidal. God designed sex to be enjoyed between a man and a woman in marriage not to be enjoyed with your laptop. God’s design is better than the devil’s design, porn is just a cheap alternative. PORN IS FAKE SEX. Don’t settle for the fake, when you can experience the real thing. Studies reveal that Sexual intimacy and pleasure in marriage increases when sexual addictions are broken. You don’t trade an IPhone for a pencil. Don’t trade the real thing for the devil’s cheap alternative.

When Jesus died for all of humanity, He defeated sin. Through His sacrifice, we have forgiveness and freedom. Jesus didn’t just die to provide forgiveness, He died to set you free. You have Freedom in Christ, You have Freedom from Porn in Christ. It doesn’t end there. When you receive Jesus’s sacrifice, you get transformed from a sinner to a saint. You become a Child of God, a New Creation, a New breed. You cease to be a normal human, the moment you receive Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. You are not a sinner anymore, You are a Son, a Daughter of God. You are not a Porn addict. When you change your thinking with the truth of who you are and what you have in Christ, your actions will change. Identity precedes actions. Get your identity right and you will stop watching porn.

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but “be transformed” “by the renewing of your mind”. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:1,2(NIV)- You have to offer your body to God, stop following the patterns of the world and change your thinking(renew your mind), then you will be transformed. This verse is one of the core verses to experience freedom and transformation. Do what God has asked us to do and transformation will follow.

“Oh Brotha, If I have been set free and transformed, Why I’m I watching Porn again and again?”, Because You don’t know who you are and what you have in Christ. “I know what Jesus did for me but I’m still struggling, Why?”, Because You have not rewired your brain. Your brain was rewired to corruption by porn, now you have to rewire it to purity by the truth. Freedom from porn happens when your mind is filled with the truth of who you are and what you have in Christ. Temptation is mandatory but sin is always a choice. Temptations will hit you from all sides but because of what Jesus has done for you and in you, you can slap temptations away. You have freedom, you can say No to porn. The battle is in your mind. When the devil drops a sexual desire in your mind and urges you to watch porn, retaliate with the truth-“I’m not going to watch. Jesus has set me free. I’m a child of God, I’m a New creation. Back off devil”.

Dear friends, I warn you as “temporary residents and foreigners” to keep away from worldly desires that wage war against your very souls. 1 Peter 2:11(NLT) – You are in the middle of a war. The devil is constantly shooting sinful desires at your mind. Guard your mind. 

Porn addiction and demons:-
Porn addiction is demonic. Your mind is the door to the spiritual world and exposing your mind to sex videos again and again will let demons in. One of the main reason, many get back to porn again even after repenting and crying in the altar is because of the presence of demons. The Porn world is a World of demons, operated by the devil himself through deceived humans and after accessing it, you can’t get away without harm. Nothing to fear because Jesus has given us authority over all the power of the devil. Every believer has the power to drive out demons, you can do it for yourself. But it is wise to get help from someone, who is already operating in deliverance to help you out. Not that demons are super-powerful, they are nothing before you with Christ inside. Getting help is wise, if you have no knowledge about driving out demons. And Yes most people will judge you and look down on you, if you open up your problem to them but understand that there are also people who will love you and love to help you out. Find them and get help.

How to drive out demons? Command them to get out in Jesus’ name. Like this-“You spirit of lust, I command you to leave right now, in Jesus’ name”. Continue your command till the spirit or spirits leave. How do you know when they leave? Holy Spirit will give you a “knowing”, you will KNOW they are gone. You will feel free and light, when demons leave. If you don’ t get them out, they are going to stick to your life and keep you addicted for life. You can keep making decisions to stop but you will keep failing, if you don’t deal with the spirits of lust.

And these signs will follow those who believe: In My name they will cast out demons. Mark 16:17(NKJV) – It doesn’t say you have to be a Super-Apostle or a Spooky-Prophet to drive out demons. If you are believer, you can drive out demons in Jesus’ name. Power is in the Name of Jesus and in the Name of an apostle or prophet or pastor. 

Action Plan for a Porn-Free Life:-
Porn addicts are not just in the clubs and pubs. They are seated in our Church seats every Sunday morning, they are up in the stage leading worship, they are also up in the pulpit preaching. Hands that were found masturbating are Holding the famed black book on Sunday. This is the most horrible disease to hit mankind. It’s time to get it out of your life and eradicate it with power of God. Understand this first:- Internet Filters or Porn Adult Content Alerts or Being Accountable to someone don’t bring freedom. They just keep your addiction under control. You have to kill it, not keep it under control. Freedom from porn is available only through the finished work of Jesus. When you get the spirits of lust out, receive His finished work and accept your new identity, you will experience freedom….Wait, Read again what I just said and then continue…It doesn’t end there, you have to get free and stay free, you have to maintain your freedom. Jesus clearly-“When a demon leaves, it will come back with a stronger force”. Freedom is not having a long gap between porn visits, Freedom is not visiting porn again. I’m going to give you some practical exercises that will help you live a porn-free life.

  • Soak in God’s Love:- You can be a Porn addict, You can even be Porn star, God loves you. He loves you so much that He doesn’t want you to be stuck in porn because porn is destructive. He loves you so much that He planned the cross even before you were born to get you back to Him. He loves you when you are not watching porn, He loves you when you are watching porn and He loves you when you have just finished watching porn. He loves you because He is in One, who made you in your Momma’s tummy. When you are playing with porn, He is not mad, He is sad. He wants you to take hold of the finished work of Jesus and be free. He wants to walk with you. You may have messed up big time, it doesn’t matter. He is always waiting for you with open arms. He is your Daddy and when you spend time everyday soaking in His Love, your love for sin will disappear. You will find out that you can’t love God and porn, and you will be undone by His goodness that you will kick porn out. Everyday, take time off, close your eyes and receive His Love for you. He is a Good Daddy.
  • Stay Aware of the Finished Work of Jesus:- Our minds work like hard drives, your input determines your output. You must fill your mind with God’s Word and keep it from being polluted by the world. If you go back to the world after getting free, you will be back with a bang, masturbating before your laptop.

I take communion 3 times everyday, honoring and remembering what Jesus has done for me. You can also start taking communion everyday. Don’t be spiritual, you don’t have to be in Church, on your knees, while taking communion. You don’t need bread and wine, just take communion with your meal. You can also talk to yourself throughout the day, while driving or cooking or whatever, about the finished work of Jesus. Say-“Jesus has forgiven me and set me free from all my sins. I’m cleansed by the Blood. I’m a New creation”, “Thank you Jesus for setting me free from porn addiction. I’m free from lust. I’m filled with the Love of God”. The more you talk like this, the more your brain will be rewired to purity and will stay strong. Freedom from porn is available in the finished work of Jesus, so look to Jesus, the cross and the blood. Remember, Remind, Refresh…

  • Strengthen your Will Power:- Most people who are addicted to porn have confessed that they are not able to control their desire to watch porn, which is nothing but a lie planted in our minds. You can control yourself, You are powerful. You don’t have to pray to God to help you control your desire to watch porn…Ooooppsss…Did I hit someone with a brick?…Yeahh, you don’t have to pray because God has already given you self control. He has already given you the power to control yourself, power to Say Yes and No. God won’t do what He has already done. If you are believer, you are powerful in Christ. When you started off, you were totally in control. After watching porn again and again, a neuropath was formed in your brain that made watching porn in the same level as brushing your teeth- it just flows. Now, can you stop yourself from brushing your teeth? Yes. Similarly, you can say No to porn and walk away. As we have been trained the wrong way, our will, the decision making part of our soul, is not strong. Indulging in a few simple exercises everyday, can awaken your will power to it’s God-given state.

God did not give us a spirit that makes us afraid but a spirit of power and love and self-control. 2 Timothy 1:7(NCV) – This verse is in past tense. You have the Spirit of Self control NOW. You don’t have to work for it, you just have to work out what you already have. 

With the understanding that you have the power to Say Yes and No, do these:- If you love sleeping and get up late, wake yourself up early in the morning. If you have any special food time during the week, like Sunday afternoon special or barbecue special, Say No to it. If you are watching a TV series or Watching sports tournament you love, stop watching. These are not rules, I’m not telling you don’t sleep and don’t eat, I’m not telling you to sit under a tree, half-naked, in meditation. I’m teaching you how to be strong-willed, how to use the power God has given you to choose. As you keep exercising your will, your mind and body will come under your control, they won’t turn nuts when temptations hit. Keep doing this and within a little time, you will feel powerful. Never forget, You are powerful person because God lives in you.

  • Work Out daily:- I know this may sound bizarre but intense work out releases the same chemicals, that get released while you watch porn. When temptation hits you, hit the gym. When a desire to watch porn comes, get down and take push-ups. Working out keeps your mind and body healthy, while porn corrupts your entire being. If you are prone to watch porn after you get back home from work, schedule your gym time after work. After workout, you will be super-tired, so get to bed. On Weekends, get along with their Church friends for fellowship, go and watch a good movie, go out for dinner. You are not Mark Zuckenberg and you don’t have any business sitting with your laptop all day long.
  • Stop Watching Movies with Adult content:- You must learnt to say No to movies with adult content. “I will just watch this movie in my laptop” you say, some sex scene shows up in the movie, the desire to watch porn will be triggered and you will find yourself moving from the movie to porn. Go to IMDB website and you will find a place where they will have a parental guidance link under every movie, telling you about the sexual content and violence and profanity in the movie. Check it out before watching a movie. Don’t think it is harmless, everything that can get into your mind can harm you.
  • Stop Wasting your time on the Internet:- Don’t waste your time on Social medias. Don’t waste your time jumping from one website to another. You have a good percentage of ending up in porn, when you just surf the internet without purpose. When you waste your time on the internet, your mind gets dry and will submit to temptation easily. Learn to do everything with purpose-“Why Am I switching on the Internet? To send reply to your mails. Do it. Share a photo on Facebook. Do it. Search something specific. Do it. And Get out and Get a life. God has a Great plan for your life, don’t waste your time on the internet. You are a world-changer, not a purposeless bum.
  • Taste the Power of Meditation:- Meditation is not an eastern religious practice, it is biblical. David was a Master in Meditation, read His psalm. We don’t empty our minds and sit cross-legged, we focus on God. Meditating means Chewing something in your mind as you would chew a bubble gum. Meditate on God’s word, God’s nature, Promises of God and on your testimonies(When God acted on your behalf). Your mind becomes healthy and strong, as you spend much time meditating daily. Reading the Bible is useless, Study the bible and meditate. When your mind changes, your actions will change. Majority of our failures are due to our focus on actions, we TRY to keep our self from doing something but it doesn’t work that way. Focus on your mind and keep it clean and your actions will change.
  • Master the Art of Shooting down sinful thoughts:- Sin starts in your mind, if you kill it in your mind, you will not sin. That’s the secret, go read it ten times before reading further. Shooting down sinful thoughts is an art that can be mastered by practice. When lustful desires appear in your mind, shoot them down with the truth. Don’t let them stay even for moment. Temptations are going to hit us from all sides, we can’t escape temptations but we can escape sinning by learning to shoot down sinful thoughts.

Our weapons have power from God that can destroy the enemy’s strong places. We destroy people’s arguments and every proud thing that raises itself against the knowledge of God. We capture every thought and make it give up and obey Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:4,5(NCV)– Your mind is the battleground. Arresting sinful thoughts is the battle. The Battle plan is simple- Arrest sinful thoughts the moment they appear and Fill your mind with God-thoughts. Act like a Police Officer. If you win in your mind, you win on the outside. 

  • Hang Out with the Passionate and Mature believers:- Iron sharpens Iron. If you want to stand tall for God, you must walk with those who are standing tall for God. There is a power in right connections. Samuel and the prophets carried a prophetic atmosphere with them. If you connect with passionate God lovers who are serious about purity, you will carry an atmosphere of purity everywhere you go. As people started prophesying when they came under the prophetic atmosphere, they will get free from porn as they get near an atmosphere of purity. Love everyone, Serve everyone but don’t hang out with everyone. Be Choosy, especially, stay away from worldly Christians. Connect with mature believers, who will assist you in walking forward with God.
  • Early to bed, Early to rise:- Something we learned in our Kindergarten days but failed to practice as life went by. Ask the Hardcore porn addict, dabbling with porn happens mostly at night. This Internet generation is found busy with smartphones and laptops, when it’s time to sleep. Due to your day’s activity, your mind will be tired at night and it needs rest. But if you go and sit before your laptop or phone, the devil will throw temptations at you and you will fall easily because your mind is tired. We are tired at night and the devil is active at night.

The Best way to defeat the devil is simple- GO TO SLEEP. When the devil knocks at your door with temptations, answer the door with a Good night. Get rest and you will wake up strong. Get to bed early and you will be healthy, mentally and physically. On the other hand, don’t be lazy because laziness is the devil’s playground. As we have learnt that brain is the major player in sex and addiction, you must understand that your brain works only 10% when you are awake and 90% when you are asleep. Sleep is good for your brain. When you sleep, Gilial cells in your brain clean up the toxins in your brain and the best thing to do before going to sleep is Meditating on God’s word. The Word of God washes your brain. Make strong decision that you will sleep early and will stay awake only when you need an extra time with God(praying or studying His Word). Everything else can wait till the next dawns. Shut up and Go to sleep.

Note:- I have come up with this action plan, which is purely practical and easy to follow, after studying this subject for years. If you follow them right, you will live right without porn having a place in your life.

Porn is dangerous. Porn will make you depressed and violent. Porn will affect you spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally. It will affect your marriage, your family and your sex life. Sex was God’s idea and porn is just a cheap alternative created by the devil which comes with harmful side effects. There is a way out, receive your freedom and say “Buh bye” to porn. Jesus has provided freedom through His sacrifice. Believe and receive. Know who you are and what you have in Christ. You have the power to Say No to porn. Don’t tolerate porn, crucify it. Follow the action plan and you will live a porn-free life. If you have any doubts or need further help, please contact me…Share your thoughts and comments below..

The Finished work of Jesus is the foundation for Freedom from porn. There is no freedom outside Jesus. Without Jesus, You can only keep your addictions under control. I didn’t have space to go into detail about the finished work of Jesus in this post, but you can get a detailed teaching in the following link. Check it out- http://holyspiritrevolution.com/at-last-free-from-sin/

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http://holyspiritrevolution.com/how-to-lose-your-virginity-before-marriage/

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